The pitfalls of being a potential mistress!!

So, where was I? A rendezvous was planned for last Sunday with Mr D. Low and behold I received a text in the morning that he couldn't get away as his wife had changed her plans. How gutted was I! We had spoken on the phone again and boy was he sexy! He can chat for England and is so easy to talk with has a great sense of fun about him and just the right about of boyish flirtation!

I was really looking forward to actually being face to face with this guy and now his wife had put the mockers on it! I actually felt quite indignant in a way that he could not create the 'perfect excuse' to see me! Wasn't I worth it? His text was apologetic and said how 'gutted' he was, which went a little way to placate me. Plus he called later when he managed to escape and we spoke for about 40 mins, quite a while for two people who haven't even met! He told me how much he wanted to kiss me when we met and how sexy I sounded on the phone...so I'll let him off this one time.

It's a really odd situation to be in , never considered myself as the 'other woman' but that's what I am I suppose..The deceit that you have to go to, the lies you have to create to have the excitement we seek. You try not to consider the other innocent parties in this, try to just separate what we are doing from your and their normal life, like the two don't actually affect each other, just run parallel it's not until something appears like the other party rearing their head and the consequence affects our plans that you have to admit that there are others affected by our actions!!!

So, has that made me want to see him less, has the guilt overcome my need! No!! We are now talking or texting ( what did we do before mobiles?)most days, learning more about each other and trying between both our busy normal lives to get together. We have a date pencilled in for this Sunday, as long as he can find a good excuse! Although I have been honest with him and said that if he wants to do this, honesty is really out of the window! I think he sees that as he keeps saying how much he needs and wants to meet! May be onto a good thing with this one, who knows...

On another front, Mr B, who I had to cancel and is still it appears very keen, I'm meeting tomorrow for a quiet drink. Have reservations as he seems to be a lovely guy, he just doesn't make me tingle when we talk like Mr D. However, I'm trying to be open minded, he could be brimimg over with passion and whisk me off my feet - don't think so somehow!! Will fill you in with the gory details when they happen!!

I have also been in touch with another guy, now is now known as Mr E. He is more local to me and our message banter has been very flirty. He seems very nice, looks like a fairly good looking tall rugby player and as an added bonus he is very keen to meet up soon too. We are at present emailing each other so we can arrange a date!

3, I have three men, all telling me how lovely, sexy and funny I am, all wanting me and to meet up. Life could not get better!!!!!!

Lips x

I'm back!!!

So I have returned, no have not been whisked away by a sexy stud, but suffering from the British weather and the inevitable colds and coughs it brings! Hardly conducive of creating a passion filled love affair when your nose looks like something rudolph would be proud of!!!

The worst of it was I had to cancel Mr C! I sent an apologetic note from my sick bed and in return received a one line 'get well soon', what did I expect, well maybe a bit more than that!! He had also been noticeably quiet of late, as previously he messaged me everyday keen to keep up with my comings and going, telling me how attractive he thought I was..., this sudden drought of interest held an underlying question?

So now, returning to feeling human I thought it was time for me to lay my cards on the table! That's the thing with 'looking' for potential affair material you don't want to waste time, the need to find 'the one ' outweighs all reason! Well, Mr C came back and just as I thought he said that he stil wanted to meet and that he had met a woman who was very adventurous and wanted him to 'swing' with her. Shocked? No just proves I was right, how fickle that a man can be (not being sexist its just my experience) turns on the charm but reality is they just want to get into your knickers!!!! However and whenever!!! So, sloppy seconds I'm not Mr C who has missed out on this sex kitten! Meow....

Mr D however, has reached level 2 twice!! Well we have spoken twice now on the phone one day after the next, plus messaged in between....he is lovely on the phone, friendly, flirty, funny and sexy!!!

We have planned to meet this weekend all being well! A quiet coffee where we can chat - really it's a face to face meet to check each other out and see if we like what we see!!!! He's six foot, fair (a change for me as I am normally drawn to tall dark and handsome) Very easy to talk too, in fact I think he can talk more than me!

I'm just hoping that the reality lives up to the fantasy and I will feel drawn to him, enough to want him to reach out and touch me, hold me, kiss me and more.. Watch this space, I'll let you know!!!


Lips x

A new potential?

Messages have been quiet over the last couple of days. Still have the ones from those who I've not replied to, either because they are not my type, I don't like what they have written in their profile - as believe me some can be very full of themselves and list out their requirements like a shopping list, don't want anyone over a size 10, no piercing, tattoos, or who talks too much, needs to be intelligent, not too strong-willed, can talk about art, the theatre, current affairs - for heavens sake where is this person???? What a woman this would be plus they want her in high heels and stockings and sexy too!!!

No, that's not me, I am not and never will be all these things I am me warts and all!!! I am tall, curvy, blonde, Busty and proud!! look good I think in some sexy black stockings, I can hold an intelligent and more importantly fun conversation. I have a good sense of humour and enjoy male company - is that enough?? For some it appears not, to those I say good luck and good riddance! I am here to find a sexy, fun man who makes me laugh and feel special, I am who I am and happy with my lot - I'm not going to change who I am to suit others just maybe allow the person I am to flourish...

Anyway that brings me to Mr D, it all started with the normal 'hi', his message was short but bought a smile to my face...but wow he is sexy...has a great smile and has today been texting me. He is it appears, very down to earth, says he is genuine, he has a good sense of humour and comes across as fun! He too is new to this..he flirts just a little bit in his texts but is subtle and it is veiled in humour! The best way! Boy do i love a man that can flirt AND make me smile....so where will this go ? Well it's early days so one step at a
time...

Tried the 'killer heels' on last night, 4 inch red satin! My husband nearly passed out when he came out the bathroom and I was parading around in these, black stockings and nothing else - think he thought Christmas had come again!!!! I must say our sex life has rocketed since I joined the site, my feelings about myself have grown in confidence. It's flattering to have so much attention from other men though and that has boosted my sex drive enormously!! Is it wrong to be looking at having an affair, the excitment of another man yet still have fantastic sex with my husband? Maybe I'm just greedy and want my cake and eat it too!! Oh well that's something I will have to find out, can I go to level 5 with any other man? Will the excitement and buzz be enough to take me over the line or will I stumble at the final hurdle - I'll just have to 'play it by ear ' my saying at the moment - you can't really plan how you will react until the situation arises so let's just wait and see...

Lips x

What shall I wear???

So, Mr C and I have set a date for next week!! Now I'm faced with a girls age-old problem of what to wear!!

Over the last few weeks with my sex-drive rising (all the naughty anticipation I suppose) I have, as mentioned before been perusing the net and the shops for sexy underwear! Having found a sexy black and pink corset, which I'm hoping will emphasize my full bust and create a 'wow' cleavage!! I have now got two pairs of killer heels on the way to wear with some black stockings...don't think I'll be able to walk in them, but that's not what they are for -they are intended to make your stockinged legs look longer and slimmer and for dramatic impact, after all Mr C is 6 foot 3!!

However, I think our first date is not the place for corset and stockings , might be a bit much to take off my coat and reveal all the goodies in one go..Part of the excitement of an affair it appears are the stages you reach, the build-up, each individual stage leading to the next and then to the ultimate goal!!!

Mr C is a smart dressed, suited and booted guy, so turning up next week in jeans and a t- shirt is a no-goer!! However, wearing something a little bit dressy, classy and a bit sexy, will put me in the right mood!! If I wear the obligatory stockings and maybe an all-in one lace body under a simple little black dress, will make me feel sexier especially knowing he won't know or find out - well probably!!

We are meeting at a quiet pub me-thinks, for a quiet drink, god knows what his excuse to escape will be as he has to drive quite far - let's hope he thinks I'm worth it by the end of the evening. Just thinking about the evening to come fills me with excitement, wonder how he is - excited, matter-of-fact? Who knows! He flirts well in his messages so let's hope he can do the same in the flesh and Level 3 turns out to be fun and charged with sexual tension!!

So, a little clarification on the levels I think is needed! A level 3 (on it's own) is a meet with a sexy goodnight kiss, and maybe, just maybe the chance of meeting again...Level 3 - (that's minus) is a meet and a definitive NO will not be repeating again!!!! Now that brings us to a Level 3 +, this is a fab night, sexy goodnight kiss and some serious hand moves , ( if you get my meaning! Strategically wandering hands (maybe on either part!) with real passion!!!

So where do I want Mr C to be? Well, Level 3 + of course, but who knows...that's the trouble with starting an affair this way, you have yet to assess the potential in the flesh and believe me any pre-conceived ideas can change quite quickly. So, I will just wait with anticipation and I'll keep buying more sexy underwear in preparation...

Until later,

Lips x

What's happening now???

Hi all,
A day has passed without me updating my blog, no I have not disappeared off into the sunset with my lover...it was my birthday and I had a day off! However, in true addictive style I still found a few minutes to check my messages - well can't miss an opportunity can I?! I have had over 20 messages in the last few days - where do all these guys keep coming from? One even sending 3 messages including the fact he was off on holiday for 3 weeks but giving me his mobile number so I could ring him - wouldn't mind but have never even answered him!!

Have had to postpone Mr B due to family commitments - an occupational hazard in trying to meet up with someone when both of you have to create excuses and diversions so you can make time... I suppose the deception is part of the thrill, which is a contradiction in terms when the two people tangled in deception ask for honesty with each other!! Maybe it's this shared secret that adds the flames to the fire, something you only share with your lover (or potential). Why do we feel the need to lie to one party and demand upfront honesty from the other...what people are we to deceive others for our own pleasure??? I suppose part of this is being able to 'divide' the two lives one is real life and one is the fantasy. Its a stolen moment only the two of you share, something you take with you back into your real life, tucked away at the back of your memories, relived and played out in your mind when the need arises!!

So Mr C has asked for a 'date' (his words and very nicely put - he scores points for that)...oh by the way that brings me to rule no 3!

So, Rule No 3, we ladies or girls whatever description you prefer, want and need to be flirted with, it's a little known fact that many women are stimulated by the mind, crack that and you are half way there!!! We want to have someone woo us - I know, what an old fashioned word but what else would you call it!? We want to be told we are sexy, but not by someone in a creepy way...we want a man to make us smile and laugh, to talk with, to share stolen moments with. A note to the wise guys telling us you want to get in our knickers at the outset and give us a good seeing to does not take you down the 'the path of pleasure'. Now don't get me wrong I'm sure there are some women out there that respond well to this direct approach, but it's not the norm. Also some of us have no aversion to some 'dirty talk' but there is a right time and a right place - so choose wisely! Someone who flirts outrageously with us and makes us feel wanted that's the real foreplay, you crack this code and you are on the way to level 5 for sure!!!! As I said levels will become clearer as as and when they have been reached....

So back to Mr C, we are trying to arrange a date for next week, difficicult when he can only message during the day, and mainly I can only reply at night! So eventually we will 'get it together' let's hope it's worth it!!!! Mr B and I will have go and wait another week too so unless something drastic happens the only affair I will be having is in my head!

Lips x

Let me explain...

I've noticed that one question always asked is 'have you done this before?'. The guys who have, are always it appears honest, some have indulged quite a few times and seem very matter of fact that it has become part of their life. Some stories come out that past affairs have continued for a number of months, stopping when one or other party begins to feel or have more than the initial buzz of sexual excitement.

However, there are those, like me, new to this, venturing with trepidation and excitement into this forbidden realm. Their messages carry more emotion in them, they underline the 'discretion required' and that they just need to 'put something back into their lives' still saying though that they are happy at home! If we were all so happy why would we be here? If we were getting everthing we needed what more can we want? Me, I have a great family, fantastic husband and a full sex life, this is an experience to me an extension to my own sexuality, maybe I just need to say I have 'done it' before it's too late!!! Or maybe we all feel we need to state a reason to justify it...

Just the thought of what maybe to come, makes you relook at yourself. I have found myself surfing the net looking for new underwear, not the everyday M&S, these are satin corsets, adorned in lace, high heeled 'sex' shoes, thongs, basques and outfits I can wear with them which are sexy yet elegant...I'm looking for a combination of class and hooker!!! I've just ordered a pink and black corset and high heels. To wear something like this means that I take on almost another persona, not the everyday wife and mother but a woman with a set goal for the end of the evening.

It also makes you reasses your body, it's one thing your husband seeing you with the lights on and I have some friends who won't even do that!! But a virtual stranger?? You look at yourself through their eyes and try and see, what bits can I fix? I have started taking care more of what I eat, I'm taking up an exercise dance class, in the hope that it may help tone the bits that wobble! Its not that I don't want to do this for my husband but now I feel I want to do it for me, sometimes that's what we all forget to do!!

On checking the site I have had my profile viewed in excess of 500 times. For all I know it could be the same guy!! Each day messages come through, still from new guys too! It amazes me still whenever I look that there are so many. Someone once told me it was easy for a woman to have sex if she wanted to, now I see that...if I had taken half of the guys up on their various offers I would be up for a world record!!

So, today have received a message from Mr C he wants to go to
level 3 and meet me for a date - watch this space!!!!...


Lips x

The search continues...

As part of trying to find a prospective guy for a steamy affair using a site as I am, as well as vetting those less suitable you also have to face up to the harsh reality of rejection. I have had a couple come back and say 'sorry not what I'm looking for!'. It's like, once you have laid yourself out there, bared your pictures, that you are in a shop window. Guys can pick and choose it appears!! You have to 'adapt' and accept that all those searching for a likeminded mate have a sole purpose, we are all on the site with a picture in mind of the 'one' and will not accept less!! This means rejection is an inevitable consequence...

One guy I have been talking to lately, (we have also hit level 2 and spoken on the phone), he was soooo nervous, his messages analyse everything, his guilt is evident. Let's face it you are going to do something like this, pre-meditated, there is no space for guilt!!!

He is fairly attractive and eloquent but doesn't really 'light my fire'. I have agreed to meet him as don't feel I can crush his boyish spirit. That sounds awful doesn't it, like he is some sort of charity case. But let's face it I am looking for electricity from the start, leading to earth moving sex, otherwise why would I be doing this!! It makes you feel you could be wasting time, when another guy out there could be waiting!! Anyway they say you have to watch the quiet ones, so I could be surprised...

I have a couple of potential 'candidates' on the horizon , one of which I have recently taken to level 2, he is tall, dark and has a nice warm friendly face, not unattractive but no George Clooney (well we can all hope can't we). He was fairly confident on the phone and very keen, suggesting that although he would like to rip my clothes off when we first meet (which was very flattering!!!), realisticaly he thought we should have a quiet drink and get to know each other.

I would say that if nothing else the experience so far has done wonders for my ego. I suppose as the years go by you lose yourself in the daily family hubbub. Now though to be told you are gorgeous, sexy and attractive by other men makes you feel fantastic and awakens a little sleeping sex goddess that you used to know!!


So, so far I am now arranging to meet shy Mr B this week and tall dark Mr C shortly after. Will keep you posted!!!!!





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